If you are looking for a review of Save the Marriage eBook, you have come to the right place. First, when I read the preview of this guide: “Save the Marriage, Even if only YOU want it to change”, one of the questions that came to my mind was: “How can a marriage be saved, if only one person is willing to do so?” “How can I save my marriage?” I have always thought, based on my own experience, that if both partners are not willing to do whatever it takes to save the relationship, it will be impossible to save it.
What really is Save the Marriage ebook?
This guide consists of 156 pages with 17 chapters. The package also includes several bonuses:
1. Dealing with Anger and Resentment
2. Change of Heart (a couple’s guide to relationship transformation), written by Paul and Jennifer Thibeault.
3. Guide to Winning Your Spouse back.
4. Top 5 Things NOT to Do When Your Partner Wants Out
5. 5 Rules for Fair Fighting
6. The Quick-Start Guide to Saving Your Marriage – this is a special report prepared by the author with the information you need if your marriage is in crisis and you don’t know what to do.
Lee H. Baucom shares very interesting points throughout the entire guide. The first chapter details the main reason why traditional couple therapy is not successful: 50% of the couples that go through this therapy end up divorcing. It is because traditional therapy is based in communication theory. This theory says that if a couple has better communication skills, they will be healthier in their relating.
The theory assumes that the main problem is misunderstanding and miscommunication. The author states that the heart of the problem is misperception. When I read this, I thought about my current relationship and what happened to us six months ago. All this time I was thinking that we had some communication issues at that particular moment but I didn’t really evaluate what happened. I just wanted to save my marriage.
I’ve been married for almost two years and six months ago we began to have some communication problems. I remember when I said something and my husband reacted like if I wanted to harm and/or control him. Same thing happened to me when he talked to me. It took a lot of talking to each other to clear our intentions and why we were saying what we were saying, etc. but I didn’t know another way to save my marriage.
Now, after reading the guide Saving The Marriage is that I understand that at that time we had a misperception of each other because we had the wrong image of each other in our minds; and because of that, we reacted the way we did. After realizing this, I talked to my husband and we both understood what the problem was at that time. Even though, we found our way through the situation at that time, we didn’t evaluate what happened until now. You feel so relieved when you understand why you and your partner behave the way you do, it was a key to save my marriage.
What are the negative aspects of “Save The Marriage“?
As with any other product, book or guide, Save the Marriage is not a perfect guide and I include one of the flaws I found:
- This is not a traditional marriage guide where you will find only hints of how to improve your communication skills in order to save your marriage. If that is what you are expecting to find, this is not what you will find here. The author states that you will need to change the perception you have of your spouse and therefore change in other areas, such as how you approach your partner, etc. He recommends doing this, even if your partner is not willing to change his perception of you. This may seem unfair to the reader. However, if you change in this aspect, the author says you will soon see how your partner will begin to change his/her perception of you and therefore, you will see a very positive improvement in the communication of both of you.
And what are the positive aspects of “Save the Marriage”?
- It is a comprehensive guide that opens your eyes to different aspects and ideas and in this process you begin to understand why you feel the way you are feeling, why your spouse is acting the way he/she is acting and more important, what can be done to save your relationship and not end in a divorce.
- The author is a nationally recognized Marriage Expert with more than 15 years of experience in this field and you can see it through this guide. He shares with you his experience providing examples of issues of real couples and how he worked with them to save their marriage.
- At the end of some of the sections or chapters, there are exercises that help you think about you and your spouse’s situation, which I think is very helpful because you are not only reading, you can actually apply what you are reading to your current situation.
- One of the most revealing and interesting aspects of this guide is chapter 4 “Finding the North Star of Your Relationship”. In this chapter you learn that you can be following, without knowing, a false north star and that could be the reason why you are having trouble in your marriage.
- When you purchase the product, the author gives you his email and contact number and in this way, he can keep helping you to save your relationship providing marriage counseling advice. This is something I haven’t seen before because almost every product that you find in this field will only provide the guide and a few bonuses but you will never find any help beyond that.
In general, what I think of this guide?
My honest opinion is that this is a very complete and easy to follow guide with many examples that helps you understand what the author is trying to say. It is not a traditional couple therapy guide. As I mentioned earlier, there are sections in the guide to help you apply what you are learning. The writing style is relaxed. Is like having a conversation. All six bonuses are very helpful too. Even though today I am happily married, after reading this guide I learned about my own relationship and about what WE can do as a couple to continue to be happily ever after!
